You’re in an Abusive Relationship: Now What?
Look at the list above. If you are in the military, you see the parallels. If you have been a victim of an abuse or wrongdoing, you see them even starker. So, the question is: now what?
Ultimately, you have two options: stay or go. And many opt for the former. The reasons for that are well-studied and well-documented, so we need not delve into them here. There are two great references in the footnotes if you want to read more.
Our continuing question, however, to all who remain: if it’s really that bad, why aren’t you leaving? The corollary is also at times puzzling to us: if you’re not leaving, is what is happening to you really that bad?